5 *Creepy* Questions People Ask Pakistanis Living Abroad

I am exhausted, irritated and annoyed by the most random, creepy and literally stupid questions that people ask me related to Pakistan. So, I have decided to answer them once and for all.

Here goes my most shortest list:

1- Do you have your personal GUN?

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Yes, because we don’t have justice league to save our people! This dumb question was asked to me thousands of times. And NO! we don’t have personal guns, neither are we allowed to carry one, unless with licence ( which is a long process, so we prefer getting robbed over getting a licensed gun!)

2- Did you fight with the society to pursue your career in engineering?

Oh Please

Pakistan is not all old fashioned and against women. Places like Karachi,  Lahore and Islamabad have a lot of females in engineering and it does not even matter to anyone anymore. So chill.  Not everything media say is right. It’s all propaganda.

3- You must be really strong; you handle your society to study abroad?

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Yes, I am strong, but no my society is very supportive when it comes to education. They don’t bother anyone for there life choices. So yeah,  it was never even my concern to think about the society’s reaction when moving abroad.  It was just me, my family and my plans!

4- So are you married? Did your parents force you into getting married?

 

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Lol! NO, I am not married. NO, my parents never forced me to get married early. NO, nobody will be “Honored Killed” because of love marriage. Cases do happen, but not every Pakistani is like that. So chill! Nobody will be after you if you have fallen in love with a Pakistani girl/guy!

5- Have you ever met anyone from ISIS?

 

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Seriously? I mean…  SERIOUSLY?  ISIS?
They don’t roam around the roads of Karachi and introduce themselves like ” Hey, nice meeting you. I am from ISIS… You?”

Like seriously????

 

Trust me, the list can go on and on… From, how I must have dodged the ISIS while they were shooting bullets on me to like Malala, to how brutal men of Pakistan must have been while I was growing up. I have heard everything. But to be honest, I never faced any of this and hopefully, Inshaa Allah ( If Allah wills), I never will.

Negativity is everywhere, evil minded criminals are roaming around the world. But STOP generalizing based on few cases. It’s very unfair to hear all these negative comments about Pakistan, it’s very hurting when people gave me sympathy for facing that evil society. NO, Pakistan is full of beautiful and humble people. We care, we love and we spread peace. ❤ ❤ ❤

Peace ❤

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The worst but most respected job in the world – Sewer cleaners

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You dress up nicely from your heart every morning to go to your job. You check your hair and your shiny shoes. You check for the finest fragrance to match with your look every day. This is a normal routine for most of the working people.  However, there is an occupation where clothes and perfume are not only neglected but they suffer from the most dreadful and smelliest places.23

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sewer cleaning is one of the most dangerous and disgusting occupation especially in third world countries where proper instruments to check poisonous gases, blowers to throw out polluted air, torches, gloves, even proper clothes are not provided. Living in Pakistan for most of my life, I came across these poor daily wage labour, who are willing to go down in the dirtiest sewer in order to remove the domestic and industrial waste.

These sewers contain poisonous and suffocating gases like carbon monoxide, hydrogen sulphide and methane. The water the climb down into contains a lot of chemicals like bleaches which are used to clean bathroom floors, grease from shops, mercury, the glass component, ammonia and other chemicals.

These people suffer from boils and burns, nose and lungs infections like asthma. This not only risks the labour life but the entire families. The government, especially in third world countries, like Pakistan, India and Bangladesh don’t seem to notice.

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Imagine if these workers stop working for just 1 month. The entire place will be flooded with the dirty sewer water. Appreciate and thank these workers, they deserve more! Surely,  they are the most important people in our society.

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Male Belly Dancer- Breaking social Barriers

Being a girl, I came across a lot of scenarios where I had to fight to get my right. Especially being an engineering student, I answer many questions on daily basis about why I like engineering, why didn’t I join any “girl field” and so on and on. For years I have been a very strong person especially when it come to gender biasing and racial differences.  Luckily, Allah gave me the best parents and family, who understand my interests, and supports me and my sisters in any field or any decision we make in and for our life.

I came across this video and I was surprised how gender biasing is affecting the men in our society now. Why the person is judged by what they do, instead of how talented they are.
Our parents should stop listening to “wo kia kahenge” (what will they say?).  Honestly, sometimes I wonder who are these “they” people.  😀 Why our parents care more about these people more than their own kids?
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Ehsan Hilal, a confident young man, ready to face the world with his talent.  He is a great belly dancer and chose this because he finds it peaceful.  Kudos to him for standing for his dreams!!! (Y) (Y)

 

 

Champions believe in themselves, even when no one else does.

Happy Life! 🙂

 

-Peace ❤

Am I ready to adopt a baby?

Since I was small, my grandmother told me how difficult and stressful her life was as an orphan. Few years ago, I got a chance to visit an orphanage. The kids in the orphanage were very happy and excited to see the visitors. This excitement made me convinced to adopt a baby.

When I tell this to my family and friends, they smiled and appreciated me for my positivity, but when they realized that I am really serious about this, they start telling me how difficult my life would be, specially because I want to adopt a baby very early in my life ( I Am 22 and planning to adopt next year, when I will be in my Masters).  So here I would like to mention my reasons, why I want to adopt. (Please feel free to comment and express your concern about my decision)8a510445b31c80be94a7fb1a81d9aee4

 

  1. Although orphanages provides food, clothes and shelter to the orphans, but I believe that the children needs more than that. They need a family who value and love them.

  2. I want to give them importance. In orphanages, all kids are treated in a same way, everyday. They have fixed timetable for everything. From food to clothes, they do what they are asked to do. I want them to have a life just like how I had. Free and fun.
    Requesting my mother to make my favorite dish, or convinced her to buy me the clothes that I liked are some good memories, which I believe all children deserve.

  3. People who goes through tough time in there life tend to be more talented and hardworking if they are given the chance. I want to provide the kid with the best education so my baby can take part in the wellbeing of our society. I believe kids can become champions only if they are given the correct path.

  4. Parents are the biggest blessings of Allah. I have been away from my parents since last 4 years. I know how it feels to be away from family. But whenever I am happy, sad, sick, tired, stressed, tensed or angry, I Skype with my parents and share my problems. But unfortunately orphans can’t even wish to meet or call their parents.

  5. In my life I have been attending a lot of weddings. I have never seen in my 22 years life any orphanage invited to attend a wedding. They spent their entire life in orphanage and have no idea how weddings are. They don’t know what Mehndi Henna Night, Bridal Shower, Valima reception etc means.

These are just few of many reasons that I have to adopt a kid. Honestly, I sometimes feels scared that after I will  die, God will ask me “ Why you didn’t do anything for the orphans?”
And I won’t have any answer to that. Will I say “Because my society was not accepting” or “ Because people around me were too scared that I will ruin my life and career”.

This fear make me want to adopt a baby more. I  hope one day soon, I will proudly post a blog showing my adopted baby (ies).

PS: if you are capable of affording a child, please do so. Orphans also deserve a family.

PSS: Please let me know if my decision is okay or should I wait few more years?

 

Happy life.

-Peace ❤