Since I was small, my grandmother told me how difficult and stressful her life was as an orphan. Few years ago, I got a chance to visit an orphanage. The kids in the orphanage were very happy and excited to see the visitors. This excitement made me convinced to adopt a baby.
When I tell this to my family and friends, they smiled and appreciated me for my positivity, but when they realized that I am really serious about this, they start telling me how difficult my life would be, specially because I want to adopt a baby very early in my life ( I Am 22 and planning to adopt next year, when I will be in my Masters). So here I would like to mention my reasons, why I want to adopt. (Please feel free to comment and express your concern about my decision)
Although orphanages provides food, clothes and shelter to the orphans, but I believe that the children needs more than that. They need a family who value and love them.
I want to give them importance. In orphanages, all kids are treated in a same way, everyday. They have fixed timetable for everything. From food to clothes, they do what they are asked to do. I want them to have a life just like how I had. Free and fun.
Requesting my mother to make my favorite dish, or convinced her to buy me the clothes that I liked are some good memories, which I believe all children deserve.
People who goes through tough time in there life tend to be more talented and hardworking if they are given the chance. I want to provide the kid with the best education so my baby can take part in the wellbeing of our society. I believe kids can become champions only if they are given the correct path.
Parents are the biggest blessings of Allah. I have been away from my parents since last 4 years. I know how it feels to be away from family. But whenever I am happy, sad, sick, tired, stressed, tensed or angry, I Skype with my parents and share my problems. But unfortunately orphans can’t even wish to meet or call their parents.
In my life I have been attending a lot of weddings. I have never seen in my 22 years life any orphanage invited to attend a wedding. They spent their entire life in orphanage and have no idea how weddings are. They don’t know what Mehndi Henna Night, Bridal Shower, Valima reception etc means.
These are just few of many reasons that I have to adopt a kid. Honestly, I sometimes feels scared that after I will die, God will ask me “ Why you didn’t do anything for the orphans?”
And I won’t have any answer to that. Will I say “Because my society was not accepting” or “ Because people around me were too scared that I will ruin my life and career”.
This fear make me want to adopt a baby more. I hope one day soon, I will proudly post a blog showing my adopted baby (ies).
PS: if you are capable of affording a child, please do so. Orphans also deserve a family.
PSS: Please let me know if my decision is okay or should I wait few more years?